You may not realize until adulthood that you often live your life to make your parents happy. You come to a point in your life when you question why you do what you do, you may realize that you may be living your life in an effort to make your parents happy. This realization can dawn when you are at any age, depending on how tight a hold your family has on your psyche. You may feel shocked or depressed by this information, but you can trust that it is coming to you at this time because you are ready to find out what it would mean to live your life for yourself by following the call of your soul and refusing to be beholden to someone else’s expectations.
One of the most common reasons you are so tied into making your parents or others happy is that you were not properly nurtured when you were a child. You were not honored as an individual in your own right, with a will and purpose of your own. As a result, you learned to look outside of yourself for approval, support, and direction, rather than within. The good news is that the part of you that was not adequately nurtured is still there, inside of you, like a seed that has not yet received the sunlight and moisture it needs to open and allow its inner contents to unfurl. It is never too late to provide yourself with what You need.
There are many ways to create a safe container for yourself so that you can turn within and shine the light of awareness there. You may join a support group, go to therapy, or start a journaling practice. This experience of becoming is well worth the difficult work that may be required. In whatever process you choose, you may feel worse before you feel better, but you will ultimately find out how to live your life for yourself and how to make yourself happy.
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